By Jay Holland – Student and Family Ministries Pastor
Whether it’s a tricky Bible issue, a hard theological tension, or a deep personal question you’re not sure how to handle — you don’t have to panic.
You just need to stay humble, stay curious, and keep pointing to the character of God.
Let’s walk through a few simple but powerful principles that will help you lead even when you don’t have all the answers.
1. Admit When You Don’t Know
- It’s perfectly okay to say, “I don’t know.”
- In fact, humility builds credibility with your students.
- Try: “That’s a great question — I want to dig into that more and get back to you.”
- Your goal isn’t to impress — it’s to guide and model honesty.
2. Discern What’s Behind the Question
Before rushing to answer, say a quick prayer in your heart:
“Lord, help me see what this student really needs.”
- Be curious before confident:
- Is this a theological curiosity about God’s mysteries?
- Or is it a question born from pain, confusion, or personal experience?
- If it’s curiosity:
- Acknowledge the mystery and wonder of God.
- “That’s one of those things we might not fully understand this side of heaven.”
- If it’s pain:
- Start with empathy: “That’s really hard. I’m so sorry you’re carrying that.”
- Then gently remind them of God’s character:
- He is good and kind.
- He promises to work all things for good.
- Jesus himself wept with those who wept.
- Be curious before confident:
Remember: The question they ask may not be the question that needs answering. Ask follow-up questions, listen deeply, and focus on their heart more than the topic.
3. Model How to Search for Answers Together
- Students don’t just need information — they need to see how to search faithfully:
- “Let’s see what Scripture says.”
- “Let’s ask a pastor or mentor.”
- “Let’s dig into a trusted resource this week.”
- This turns a hard moment into a discipleship opportunity.
4. Point Back to Jesus and God’s Character
Some questions don’t have neat answers. In those moments, focus on who God is:
- His love.
- His grace.
- His presence.
- His promises.
Teach students that faith isn’t about having every answer — it’s about trusting the One who does.
Bonus Tip
Keep a “Questions I Want to Ask God Someday” list.
This can be a playful but respectful way to hold mystery while still honoring curiosity.
Closing Challenge
This week, don’t be afraid of the tough questions.
You’re not called to be a walking Bible dictionary — you’re called to be a faithful guide.
So pause, pray, and be curious.
Lead with humility. Listen with empathy.
And when you don’t know what to say — point them to the grace, love, and nearness of Jesus.
I’m Jay Holland — and this has been your 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach.
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Have a great day — and I’ll talk to you soon.
